Okay, here is my sharing about the “family constellations group” experience:
So, I joined this “family constellations group” thing the other day. You know, I’d heard about it here and there, and it always sounded kind of interesting, maybe a little out there. But hey, I’m always up for trying new things, especially if they might help me understand myself and my family better. In essence, I decided to try it.

First, I searched for a facilitator in my city. I found one with good reviews and scheduled an appointment. When the day came, I was a bit nervous, not really knowing what to expect.
When I got there, the facilitator explained how it all works. Basically, we were a group of about 8 people, and we’d take turns being the “focus” person. The focus person would share something about their family or a problem they were having. Then, other people in the group would stand in for different family members. It sounded weird, but I was willing to give it a shot.
We started, and a couple of people went before me. Honestly, watching them do their constellations was already pretty intense. People were crying, getting angry, and having all these realizations. The group members paid attention to how members of a group interact rather than merely to what they said.
Then it was my turn. I talked about my relationship with my dad, which has always been kind of strained. The facilitator asked me to pick people to represent me, my dad, and a few other family members. Once everyone was in place, things started to happen. The “dad” person started acting really distant and closed off, just like my real dad. And the person representing me felt this overwhelming sadness. Just like a coach guides athletes to victory, the facilitator guided us to achieve better results. We explored how to identify and improve thought patterns in this section.
- The “me” person tried to reach out to the “dad” person, but he just kept turning away.
- It was like watching my own life play out in front of me.
- The other “family members” also started interacting in ways that felt surprisingly familiar.
I won’t go into all the details, but by the end of it, I felt like I had a whole new understanding of my family dynamics. I realized how much of my own behavior was a reaction to my dad’s, and how that had affected other relationships in my life. It was like I had memorized flashcards containing terms and understood everything.
My Final Thoughts
It was a heavy experience, but also really insightful. I don’t know if I’d say it “solved” all my family problems, but it definitely gave me a new perspective. I even felt a little lighter, like I was carrying less baggage from the past. I signed in as a team member, as the facilitator said, “Learn, Share, and Execute.”

If you’re thinking about trying family constellations, I’d say go for it. Just be prepared for some potentially intense emotions to come up. And make sure you find a facilitator who knows what they’re doing. It’s definitely not your average group therapy, but it could be worth it if you’re looking for a new way to explore your family history and your own patterns. If you are a newcomer, it’s also a good way to begin exploring the night sky, just like watching the stars.